A Tale of Allegory
I decided some time ago to announce to my wife that in our relationship I am putting myself first. In other words, I would be securing my own position financially, socially and career wise without regard for her needs. I replied to her cold stare by explaining, quite logically, that a strong me only strengthens our marriage, and that I understand her needs anyway and will naturally look out for her.
Despite the pure intentions of my announcement, the cold stare intensified. Therefore, I felt it best to adjust my strategy to include my immediate family. I began calling each of our five children to explain that their mother and I have decided to put ourselves first to mutually benefit them, their families, and their futures. After all, at some point they each will likely inherit a small sum of money and for sure all the stuff we have in this house. I asked that the grandkids, who are all lovely, please not ask for any more ice cream cones or other such ephemeral and unnecessary gifts. I explained, quite convincingly, how their families will ultimately benefit.
For reasons unknown, communication with my children seemed to stop altogether. I decided to drop this strategy and expand it to the neighborhood instead. I had big yard signs made that said, “Ballinger Family First”, and posted them on all sides of our property. Curious and well-meaning neighbors asked sheepishly what this meant. Of course, I explained how we, the Ballingers, were enhancing their fortunes through most efficiently managing our own. While explaining this to neighbor Steve one sunny day, a very cute and young Girl Scout approached and asked if I would be so kind as to buy a box of thin mints to help support the local troop. I just pointed at the sign in the yard, and she slouched her way to a less sophisticated home across the street. The nerve! Steve didn’t say much because he said he needed to get to church, and, get this, he said he might even discuss my philosophy with members of his congregation. I think I made a difference.
So, I went to school where I work (it’s just a story) and asked to speak at the next faculty meeting. As a courtesy to my valued work family, I asked their indulgence as I expanded my Me First philosophy to the workplace, ultimately, for the benefit of our students, after all. I thought I observed heads nodding as I went on to suggest that Bluffton First, Wells County First, and Indiana First initiatives might be in order.
America First!
The inspiration for my “Me First” philosophy has been the many political ads that ran non-stop on television in the month preceding last week’s primary election. The candidates were all Christians. I know this because they said so right before they stated their allegiance to Donald Trump and then added quite proudly that they were America First supporters.
I claim no standing as a historian, but I do know that America First philosophy represents both isolationism and nationalism. Historically, America First was just such a movement in the years leading up to World War II. This ugly and anti-Semitic movement died out when the rest of the civilized world demanded that the United States, as a moral imperative, help defend the world from the despotic Nazis and the nationalist members of the Axis powers. Had we not responded to the needs of our allies and neighbors, the world would most likely be a much darker place today.
As the world’s most powerful and richest nation, the world looks to the US for stability, protection, and as a defender of democracy. I do not understand this conflation of America First and Christianity. Putting oneself or one nation’s needs first and above all others seems the antithesis of Christian behavior to me. But then again, I am not a theologian either. Maybe someone can explain it to me.
Here’s the thing: I wrote a column last month that was quite critical of DT and his followers. I have been asked by many what the response to the piece has been. Although my report is only anecdotal, I can say that I have received overwhelmingly positive support through emails, text messages, cards and especially, personal interactions.
Still, I do not deceive myself into believing that those responding represent most of the community. I know where I live. Those in agreement are much more likely to comment. It is human nature. I received only two negative responses (both printed as letters in the NB), and I support their right and willingness to speak.
As a footnote, one letter writer, a self-professed “RIGHT-WING EXTREMIST” and current public office holder, suggested that I leave town. I want the author to know that I did duly consider his request. However, upon discussing the possibility of moving away with my wife, she replied, “Honey, I will miss you, and do you think you could finally fix that leaky toilet upstairs before you go?” Looks like I am staying.
ken.ballinger@yahoo.com
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Editor’s Note: This is one of a series of articles and opinions written by a group of retired and current teachers — LaNae Abnet, Ken Ballinger, Billy Kreigh, Kathy Schwartz, and Anna Spalding. Their intent is to spur discussions at the dinner table and elsewhere. You may also voice your thoughts and reactions via The News-Banner’s letters to editor.
