Depending on age, interests, and your place along this journey called “life,” friendship very likely means something different to every reader.
For some, friendship means shared interests or hobbies. Others are unconcerned that the connection between a fellow human being has similarities and instead relish the differences which create fascinating conversations and times together.
And on the flip side, what makes YOU a good candidate for friendship with a colleague, classmate, or neighbor?
This pondering of friendship comes after the unexpected passing of a long-time friend and beloved former colleague this week. As I considered the impact of our relationship through the years, I remembered some of the habits he modeled.
THE KITCHEN TIMER: Building faithful friendships requires intentionality. Jesus told His followers that loving others is a command (John 15:12-15) and expectation for those who claim to love God (1 John 4:20). My former colleague often began meetings by setting a timer to remind both of us that we had other commitments. He valued and respected the gift of time, making a point to reach out with intentionality.
THE BOOMING VOICE: Building faithful friendships requires forgiveness. Colossians 3:12-14 reminds believers that we above all others should realize the necessity of offering forgiveness. After all, God — in Christ — has forgiven us far more wrongs that are done to us. My sweet friend was always ready to welcome new staff and students to the building, sometimes with a shouted, “HELLO!” down the hallway. If he held unkind thoughts from previous behaviors, it was never evident in the thoughtful, kind words he shared.
THE WELL-TIMED PHONE CALL: Building faithful friendships requires patience. Lasting trust is built over time. True love and friendship cannot be forced. Even with daily interactions at work, occasionally a timely message found its way to my cell phone, asking for a response. Although he disliked many of the modern technological “gadgets,” my respected friend was willing to leave a message about a shared responsibility.
Consider your own friendships. Determine to be patient, intentional, and forgiving. These are the hallmarks of our most faithful friends.
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