Do not become a victim of domestic violence. Do not hang around with violent/abusive people. Manage your stress. Manage your finances. Try to keep a job. Work on your marital relationship. Stay as healthy as possible. Avoid family trouble. Stay mentally and physically healthy. Stay socially and professionally active. Stay involved with other people. Stay involved with your community. Stay involved with your church. These are all ways in which to eliminate some of the risk factors of domestic violence.
No one wants to be a victim of domestic violence. Domestic violence can be any form of abuse that threatens your safety. It can be physical, verbal, emotional, sexual, financial, legal and even religious. There is usually a “tension building” phase. Followed by an “explosive” phase. Followed by a “calm” phase. And then the cycle repeats itself.
Do not become a victim. You can make it on your own. You can work and save money. You can learn to manage your finances. You can provide for your children. You can find a place to live. You are not afraid. You have courage. You are smart. You can become more educated. You realize that you cannot change others. You don’t have to give abusive people “one more chance”. You do not need an abusive marriage/relationship.
Make sure to use your resources. Work, make money, and save money. Get counseling. Get additional job training or education. Learn to “let go” of others. Move on with your own life. Focus more on “goal-setting”, and be willing to achieve each goal.
Have a “safety plan” in place. Work on self-esteem; you deserve better. Someone else’s behavior is not your fault. Get support from family and friends. Make use of social and community supports as well. Travel safely to and from work.
How can you be more prepared? Arrange to have a place to go if you decide to leave. Make copies and hide all important papers. Have important phone numbers available. Pack and hide an overnight bag. Arrange an emergency signal with neighbors who might be able to help you.
If you recognize yourself or someone you know as being in an abusive relationship, don’t hesitate to reach out. Help is available.
